Category Archives: self-expression

Are you committing emotional and spiritual suicide?

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Recently, whilst I read this post, I read and re-read the following:

The only thing standing between you and your dreams is the excuses and sacrifices you keep making. You’re comfortable and I get that. I am too. But this state of comfort is suicide season for anyone who dreams of becoming something more… Commit emotional suicide, or step outside your comfort zone and follow your dreams. The choice is yours.

It is that little step, that leap of faith, that choice to trust in the not known and doing it; stepping, leaping, choosing… and leaving the what is known and crippling behind in one decisive movement forwards.

Personally, I have years of not trusting, not leaping and not choosing. Has it been Hell? Yes! And I wouldn’t wish it on another.

Our natural state is innocent, curious and untainted by the confusions that so soon arrive in our little worlds BUT, we don’t have to either accept or agree with these confusion-causing factors. We are creatives, we have capacity to shift and become so much more than the suicides of believing that these confusions, pains and emotional and spiritual traumas have any power or control over us and our life choices.

How do we transition from our natural magic into fearing, fearful folk unsure of our capacities, skills and qualities? We copy what we witness and take as true when given by our families, our friends, our other life influencers and make them ours. BUT, we can transition back out from these challenges.

Our past is only real in our minds, our memories, in our stories we tell our selves. One thing for sure is that our pasts are over, gone, past and dead; unless we choose to resurrect them and make them into ghosts and ghouls that haunt and confuse and inhibit us in today’s world. We get to choose.

And, we get to choose how we live with the (dis-)comfort zones these life-affecting factors bring to us… a comfort zone is a place that holds us in where we think we are safe with that level of (known) safety or pain. Anything that’s further than these criteria, we think is unsafe, dangerous or may even kill us. That is often merely an illusion. And, I am living proof that having my discomfort zones challenged, broken and shattered, that I am in fact far more well than I have ever been in my life.

I’ve chosen to challenge my “suicide season” and move from fears that long-held me in my pains: what do you choose?

This is not meant to challenge – well, it is but only gently – it’s meant to get you out and exploring the extra possibilities you life has to offer when you’re not hiding (for comfort) from what’s richly available and waiting for you to discover… Go on: SHARE! Write your thoughts and comments below…

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We are all baby ducks…

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I’m reading an interesting e-book at the moment called Living from the Heart – currently only the first chapter called: We are all baby ducks – the title of which intrigued me and my creative juices got into flow…

In essence, like baby ducks – ducklings to be pedantic – we, as humans learn to bond onto other people, thoughts, situations, ideas, concepts, emotions, beliefs and ways of being. And whilst these bonds can prove useful and occasionally helpful, they (can) inhibit our natural ability to be true to our selves.

In bonding to something I’ve learned outside of my self – something I’ve been told or a thought that’s arrived in my thinking, an event in my life or the way someone else behaves, thinks or treats me – I am already narrowing my world to a place of no other possibilities and possibly self-destruction.

And, that, my friends, is dangerous! We are remarkable and beautifully created and creative beings with oodles of untapped potentials. Why, oh, why do we need to be pigeonholed or entombed in a box of our own construction by buying into bonds that destroy our very abilities to manifest the amazing?

So, perhaps this is a call to action: find what bonds you hold that simply limit, even hamstring your talents, your wonder or your Beauty, and release them. Then watch your self soar in the space you will find as a result. That space is yours to take and be in; it is your natural state.

Transitions take many forms – some are drastic in the painful sense; others momentous in an ecstatic spiritual sense; some are just plain small and seemingly insignificant, though they do trundle us forwards towards the next set of choices where we have options to make new decisions.

Are you ready to make different decisions and to move towards your natural grace of Being Love, free of bonds that harm you?

Perhaps it’s time to move from your current state … what do you think?

Artists, poets and mystics occupy the threshold between life and death, between creation and destruction…

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I follow The Re-Enchanted Life.com and part of a line in today’s post is the title of this post because it touched a very positive and curious nerve in me.

Whilst Creatives (read artists of all types) fulfil an essential part of all societies. We may be considered too “weird” to fit in the norm, the structures of serious life and yet it’s our very presence and contributions that make the magical difference. We connect the serious with the beauty-filled options of life via creativity and creative expression. We provide many of the things they enjoy, appreciate and (distract) away from the serious…

…when we think about and or enjoy music, paint, sculpture, the written word, the spoken word, singing, cinematography, buildings, design et al., we are in the realm of the Creative’s purpose, a place that meets chaos and then makes something real from its potential through interacting over a threshold where life can birth something solid from something until then, only ephemeral.

My grandfather was passionate about many things – most a complete mystery to me – among them was his passion for books. He would share about how amazing they were; using a desk, a fountain pen and paper, someone created a book; through them, taking the time, the effort, the risk to express themselves; using their brain, their mind, their hand and arm, they downloaded their thoughts and ideas and stories, observations and dreams, and they’d place them on paper.

That is a Creative at work: taking the risk to express, through whatever medium, they, like the mystic, face the threshold between the liminal and the solid and choose to be curious to see what happens when they engage and translate that relationship. Much like Michelangelo looking for the angel in a block of marble, the Creative risks all by gathering their talent to produce, to work, then sees what happens next…

How’s this topic about transitions? A Creative’s role is always about transitions: they follow their creative processes and their work is always about transitions from the virtual into the expressed. It is always the case when we ask curious questions about “what if…?” – the very phrasing is about creating a transition, a change as a result of asking, exploring, then implementing.

Thoughts from Benn #1: The fear of Expression

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I’ve spent most of my life being afraid to really share my thoughts and observations about (the workings of) life.

But, is this fear irrational and the very opposite of a natural and honest self-expression?

Please share your experiences and thoughts… have you felt like this or been confused as to whether your message is of value to others?


Blessings,

Benn