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The Moment Everything Changes…

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There are several constants in Life: death is one, thinking another, taxes a third. A fourth one seldom acknowledged is the constant of change. Here are some thoughts about change and the effects change brings…

* Each and every moment is a time of changes; some are so minimal, we don’t notice their shift; others can be more dramatic – in either a pleasing way or a way that destroys our world experience.

* The bottom line is that change happens all the time – some might call it entropy – but, whatever we call this “IT”, its influence in our life is often (and easily) ignored.

* Many elderly people I’ve worked with have all say the same two things: they never thought they’d be this old and how fast time has passed. Time changed them, they got older (too quickly). They aged moment by moment until one moment they reaslised they were old(er).

* A recent series of BBC 3 programs was about how people’s lives radically changed due to illness or trauma. One was about traumatic brain injuries, another about being disabled in an instant. Each taught me valuable lessons about how people, fellow human beings, are affected by life traumas and how they choose to deal with them.

* One thing that empowers us to deal with change is our innate resilience, the ability we have to manage and cope – how we choose to be affected by what’s happened and what we’ll do about. Another thing we have is the power of choice, the ability to decide how we want the events that have occurred to affect our lives.

Changes transition our life experiences and challenge how we’ll deal with the “what next(s)” we face as a result. And here’s where the beauty, the power, the magic of the human choice to do something remarkable, happens. We can do nothing about the past, it is already gone, some say dead; what nexts are the now, the future and they remain within our power to choose what we’ll do with them.

Sometimes, getting to a place where we can make choices to deal with what’s happened takes a little time, Love, exploration and the opportunity to share and in a supportive environment of listening. A kind compassionate, understanding ear can prove an incredibly powerful way to re-evaluate what’s happened and how to deal with it.

Anyone have any thoughts, feelings or comments on this? If so, please feel free to share…

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So, what does a Transitions Mentor do?

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Hello All,

Here is a testimonial that shares the experiences of one of my clients. Francesca had been going through personal hell due to changes and difficulties at her work as her employers constantly changed her working situation. As it describes my working style, much better than I can, I thought I’d share it with you…

Testimonial for Benn

“I have known Benn for quite a few years now, and the recent journey undertaken with him as mentor was a new venture for us, and yet a confirmation of what I already knew about him.

It is going to be difficult to select what is relevant – Benn has wit, knowledge, emotional intelligence and empathy, and all of Benn’s being, life experience, values is shared when he becomes your mentor. Generosity is a key quality. And his generosity, in turn , is the offspring of Love – the driving force which I believe must have guided Benn towards choosing this role: what else can be the motivation for lending a hand to those in despair and helping them remove bleakness layer by layer, until the purity of one’s soul can shine again. And what better reason can there be for choosing a mentor, if not knowing that he loves you already; he will not be distracted and corrupted in his Love by the darkness that envelopes you: like a parent, he will keep his eye and his heart on the Good of your soul, and he will help you embrace your true self, and never let go.”

    Francesca 29 June 2011

Blessings,

Benn